- Date Of Birth: March 12, 1940
- Date Of Death: November 22, 2021
- State: Connecticut
J. (Judith) Lynn (Fredrick) Stanley-Haney, age 81, of Storrs, CT passed away November 22, 2021, in her home from natural causes. Lynn is survived by her husband, Dr. John Haney; siblings, Leah Singer, Charles, and Michele Fredrick; children, Bethany Stanley-Kirschenbaum and David Kirschenbaum, Timothy Stanley and Leigh Frost, and Andrew and Tamar Stanley; and stepchildren John R. Haney and Jeffrey and Christine Haney.
Lynn was born in March 1940 in Orange, New Jersey. She attended Middletown, New Jersey, public schools and then attended Hartford Hospital School of Nursing. After working as a nurse in Boston for several years, Lynn and her former husband, Dr. Irving Stanley, settled in Storrs, Connecticut, where they raised their three children. Lynn became an adult medicine Nurse Practitioner and worked for the University of Connecticut Infirmary for more than fifteen years.
Lynn was a “Jersey Girl” turned faithful New Englander. She was a woman before her time who relished the opportunities to poke at authority and brush past the social boundaries of her era. She was independent, vibrant, energetic, whip-smart, and suffered no fools. Lynn was a fashion plate, an incredible hostess, and a steadfast friend.
Lynn parented her three children with a gentle touch, offering unfailing support. She guided them diligently and intentionally gave them exposure to many incredible things – especially in arts, literature, and academics – but she did it without pressure or prodding, trusting them to follow their interests, letting them make mistakes and find their path in life.
Lynn loved summer, the beach and her Jersey roots. While her children were growing up, there were annual trips to Cape Cod and the New Jersey beaches where she was most at home. As a grandmother, Lynn cherished hosting her children and grandchildren in Barnegat Light, NJ, as an annual passage of summer. Lynn also grew to love the Maine woods and trips up to Moosehead Lake and other adventures with her loving husband, John. Whether enjoying the peace of an evening boat ride or just reading a book with the Loons calling in the distance, Maine was one of her favorite places to be.
In her final years, Lynn was self-deprecating and appreciative of the efforts of her husband, children, caregivers, and friends to make her life as fruitful as possible. Moreover, she was an excellent patient! She was never bitter and was always appreciative of her station in life.
