- Date Of Death: April 5, 2019
- State: New Mexico
Daughter Rebecca’s memories:
Mom is the reason I love plants today. She didn’t care so much for the animals at the zoo or the dinosaurs at the museum but she would tell us about that Variegated Hosta & how beautiful it was. I would roll my eyes at that time of childhood unappreciativeness but realized later what amazing knowledge it was. Mom was an amazing dresser. She would get ready for work & I’d think, mom is so cool & beautiful. Even at a young age I knew how beautiful mom was. She outshined all my friends’ moms. I wish I could be half as stylish. Mom made us breakfast on Sundays & dinner every night. I hated it then. I swore I would never do that. She is the reason I cook my family meals & make them get together with each other to eat… I guess because I remember that to be happy times with my brother & sisters & our parents (other than the time Steph & colleen dove over the table & dad had to break them up or all the times they said that I chewed loud & my elbows were in the way. Lol!) Through all of that, mom let us be as kids. She let us work that out. I realized later that was beautiful parenting. Because of her I often stepped aside & let my kids work it out. Mom made us to be self-sufficient. I came home after being hit by a car on my bike, bloodied & crying, & mom said, omg, I’m out of band aids. Sit here. (On that ugly couch in the family room) & I’ll be back! Lol! I am a strong woman today because of those examples. Take care of business. Get it done. I am the mountain woman, hiker, camper, & rock climber I am today not only because of Dad, but without mom putting away her severe fear of heights, dad would never have gotten to show us that or played in the mountains himself. Because of that, I also know how much give & take it takes to honor a marriage.
Daughter Steph memories:
I remember as a little girl mom always being there for us. She took such good care and was a very loving mom. When I was in elementary school she always did my hair – always in ponytails or braids. Mom was also an amazing cook. If I would ask her for the recipe and how much of this, how much of that, she would always say, ‘oh Stephanie, I don’t measure’. Lol Then it was going grocery shopping with her, well I went everywhere with her. She always knew I wouldn’t stray because I was always straightening things right by her side. All through the year’s mom was always there come good or bad. I was truly blessed the day my mom took me to ‘Bag and Save’ where my husband to be asked my mom if he could get my number. Although I had never dated before, my mom said “yes”. I will be eternally grateful for her yes. Mom, I truly deeply love you and miss you. Love Stephanie
Daughter Colleen memories:
I love how mom literally documented our lives. Details of where we went, what we did, when it was, how much it cost.
Son Markâs memories:
Mom, mother, guide, teacher, mediator (Colleen jumping on Marks head in pool and somehow I gave her hugs after coming home from getting stitches, she kept us siblings going through life without grudges between one another), child rearing pro ( she kept us clean, on time, out of trouble, out of the doctorâs office, the dentist, the hospital as much as possible until we got old enough to do our own damage playing in the neighborhood…), friend (she loved many and the one I heard of the most was her Einstein crowd!), lover and restrictor (to my wonderful father, he did eat butter on top of butter and bacon on top of bacon to the dismay of mom, whereby she restricted all of us to do things in moderation but us kids always tried to sneak another cookie), dietary authority ( she made us eat our Lima beans and Brussels sprouts and she was NOT the dinner bell.
In this memorial closing, my mother, our mom, Dadâs wife, grand & great grandmother and friend, was our Lady Justice, because she was always and forever will be with us and be for JUST US!
From 2015 –
Mom eats healthy all her life. Never ever consumed alcohol or any “bad” food, exercised every day, very limber, very active, took all supplements suggested by her doctor, never went in the sun without sunscreen and when she did it was for as short a period as possible- so pretty much she protected her health with the utmost that anyone could. She is now 76 and has skin cancer, bone marrow cancer and extreme osteoporosis. My father eats bacon on top of bacon, butter on top of butter, fat on top of fat, never and I mean never exercised, was out in the sun burnt to a crisp every summer, he basically took the approach to live life to his fullest and not as others suggest. He is 81 and the docs says his health is that of a young person. People you cannot hide from your poison. It’s out there and it will find you so in the words of my still living mother: “if I would have known my life would end this way I would have lived it more to the fullest enjoying everything I was told not to!”
